Antoni Bolinches has 40 years of experience as a couple therapist. An essay aimed at converting the sentimental failures into the germ of an internal growth process that optimizes our ability to live together in harmony. A guide to please the resolution of couple"s conflicts and to turn the experience of coexistence into a vital lesson capable of enriching us as people. «The happiness of the couple has three great secrets: learning to choose, learning to build and learning to correct.» Antoni Bolinches Without personal maturity it is impossible to have a good relationship, but to mature you have to learn to live together. This is the starting point of a work that since its publication has become the best-selling book of the author, because it is an essential guide to overcome the suffering of love and learn to solve the crisis of coexistence. Antoni Bolinches says that criticizing others does not improve us and proposes an original system of conflict resolution based on self-criticism and personal improvement in which, through a series of guidelines, advice and reflections, it is possible to overcome the suffering and turn it into energy at the service of growth, because as he says, "when love leaves you find yourself and when you find love it does not leave you anymore". For those and other arguments equally interesting and decisive psychological utility, ?? Love at the second attempt ?? You have achieved the status of a classic of permanent topicality among self-help literature dedicated to solving love problems. Its success has been such that it has consolidated its author as a prestigious therapeutic reference that is creating a school among the new generations of Spanish and Ibero-American psychologists.